5) Have you been or are you in a dominant/submissive dynamic relationship or is this new to you? Have you been in more than one D/s relationship? How were they the same? How were they different? What is unique about your relationships in your mind?
I’m in a D/s relationship now, but this is all kind of new to me still. I’ve always been submissive, but didn’t fully understand it, or start to explore this side of myself until about 6 years ago. So in many ways I am still a very new submissive – as my Dom can probably confirm. I’m sure I’m exhausting at times, with all my questions….
Having said that I have had one other D/s relationship, around a year ago. I can honestly say that the only thing they have in common was the amount of time I spend kneeling and naked. Every single other aspect of my relationship now to the previous one is as different as night from day.
I’m conscious that it takes 2 to make any relationship work, so I don’t want to unfairly criticise my ex, but really it was the wrong relationship in every single way for me. He didn’t understand me or my needs, and didn’t care to. It was ALL about him, and I was too inexperienced & naive to understand that that wasn’t what D/s was all about. At least it wasn’t what I wanted & needed from a D/s relationship.
I tried to express some of what I have found with Sir in my post Being Found, with these words:
He found me when I was lost.
He doesn’t bully me – He treasures me.
He doesn’t hurt me – He protects me.
He doesn’t belittle me – He respects me.
He doesn’t humiliate me – He takes care of me.
He doesn’t try to change me – He guides me.
He didn’t demand my submission, but he has it, completely.